Summary:

I am talking about unwanted pregnancies and contraceptives. I also mention the current issue of Roe VS Wade. I also want to tell you a head of time that I do bring up sexual abuse and being taken advantage of. This was not super easy to talk about but I personally feel it is needed, and that our school systems today are not educating these young people like they should be.

Transcript:

Hi, I’m Danielle and today I’m going to be discussing how I feel and a question I thought of after reading an issue in Essay 20 called “Unwanted Pregnancies Are Completely Preventable”. With that being said, there might be some touchy topics brought up. But that’s because I feel that they’re necessary and important. Personally, I feel that there’s always going to be a problem with thinking that unwanted pregnancies are always preventable. We see that more now with the Roe versus Wade issue. There are those who are pro choice and those who are pro life.

There are always going to be certain scenarios that people don’t think about, for example, girls and women being mistreated and taken advantage of, and not being able to get away even after saying no. It can even go as far as being pressured by someone who’s supposed to love and take care of you. By making and making it have sex with them before you’re ready. And then not using the contraceptives needed to prevent you from getting pregnant, which in turn, can make you feel like you were obligated to stay in that relationship, for the sake of the child not knowing you may be causing more harm than good.

Which brought this question to my mind, who’s responsibility should it be for making sure that there’s protection before having sex, I asked a male friend of mine who is in his mid 30’s, what he thought and this is what he said, “I personally feel they should talk about it and get an understanding of what their options are, and what’s going to be better for both of them in the end. I know birth control is hard on women’s bodies, but that isn’t always effective. So it should be her choice if she wants to be on it or not. If she does not, and she wants us to use condoms, then I feel it is my responsibility to have them. After all men initiate sex more than women do for my experience.”

These issues are concerning because in schools where I live, they aren’t really talking about what happens when somebody is taken advantage of or sexually assaulted, and ends up with an unwanted pregnancy.

Which also made me think about this article from the Los Angeles Times. And it’s called, “I Am the product of rape. Here’s why I support abortion rights”. And Victoria Reyes states how she never knew she was the product of rape until her mother came out and said it one day, her mother stated, “I wish I had you had never been born, I should have had an abortion”. Victoria lived with her grandmother for the majority of her childhood, but she always wondered why, when her mother came around, that they always often fought, argued, and shouted at each other, often leaving Victoria in tears. Then she realized it was because her mother never wanted her and she was that constant reminder of something horrible that happened in her mom’s life.

Which brings me to my next point, not everyone who is raped and taken advantage of wants to keep the child but they’re often made to feel like they have to. The article I mentioned from the LA Times shows the meaning of when keeping an unwanted pregnancy can cause more harm than good for the child, which then can even cause issues into adulthood later in life.

So my conclusion is no, unwanted pregnancies are not completely preventable. All forms of contraceptives are 100%. Not everyone is taught how to use them properly and there are always unfortunately going to be someone out there taking advantage of little girls and women resulting in unwanted pregnancies, which leaves them are two options, keeping the baby and always remembering or having an abortion and trying to forget. But now with Roe versus Wade being overturned, women are most likely going to be forced into having babies or there’s going to be a huge spike in at home abortions. But that being said, I hope you enjoyed listening and even though we talked about some hard truths and realities of the world, that you now have a better understanding of why unwanted pregnancies aren’t 100% preventable. Thank you.

This article is about the trans community, but more specifically the trans woman. What does it mean to be a trans woman? It means that you were assigned the male sex at birth and have taken the steps to alter themselves into a woman. Who their are more comfortable being in everyday life and it do not feel like they are miserable and living a lie of a life. I do think that if there are trans women in the same store as other women looking at the same dresses or just the same clothing, if the trans woman looks masculine in any form it makes the other women uncomfortable. But how is it any different from if a man was in there looking at the dresses or the clothes to buy something nice for his wife? In my opinion there is no difference, they are people who have feelings and are just trying to be comfortable in the skin they truly feel they belong in. Like how it was mentioned that Caitlyn Jenner felt that if she looked less masculine and more feminine less people would be upset and uncomfortable that she is a trans woman.

Something else that plays a role with how people perceive others is weight and height. Often men that are bigger and have more weight on their bodies carry it in the hips and chest which if they are viewed from afar might get them mistaken for a women, especially if they have longer hair and a clean shaven face. What kind of grinds my gears a little, as being a “bigger” woman myself is that they mentioned something about how he was at a restaurant and ordered a regular soda and they brought him a diet soda based on his appearance. It is not their call and it is quite rude. I have worked in the restaurant business and we were not allowed to do such things. When COVID had died down a little and they let us open the buffet back up as long as we did some adjusting, we were making the customers plates which I think made bigger people uncomfortable to keep coming back up for more, but we tried to treat everyone and tell them that is literally there for.
I think that if I was a bigger male instead of being a bigger female that more people would not have picked on me or made as much fun of me in school. I think they would have been all for trying to talk me into playing a sport like football if I was a bigger male. I think that my weight that I am at now would be distributed differently because I do think that if I was a guy I would be so much taller. There for I might not even be considered a bigger or overweight person. I could possibly be tall and thinner. Which then could be good for multiple other sports, like basketball, baseball, soccer, and track.

Feminism and being a feminist, is not something that is directed just towards women, there are men who can be feminist too. Being a feminist is where you are making a stand to be against sexism, sexist exploitation, and oppression. This is where people tend to think that women are constantly viewing men as the enemy when that is not the case what so ever. The definition of the term feminist or feminism is so broad that they have left room for other things too. Like other forms of oppression, for example racism and homophobia. Feminist can include everyone, even children.

Personally I do think that social media platforms do facilitates how people talk about feminism and what it really is and stands for. I also think they do this because it is easier for some people to “voice” their opinions and what they think is right on social media rather than in real life or around a group of people so they are being judged in person for their own opinions or views. The other thing is that there is a ton of people now a day that only believe what they read on the internet. Even though in the back of their minds the know the should probably do a little more digging rather than just believing what they have read the one time. It is kind of like blog posts, you do not always have to agree with the person the wrote it, but you still should read it and think about it from their perspective and points they have listed.

In this blog we are going to talk about how even today that there is no such thing in my opinion as a completely preventable pregnancy. There are birth controls out there that actually happen to not work for some people, there are other contraceptives that also do not always work or malfunction. Condoms are known to work about anywhere from 85 to 99 percent of the time. That is a big range of is this going to work or not. I also know that when I was in health classes during high school they talked about how they can break and that they can have holes poked in them. I also get that there are two different forms of condoms. Male and female. There are many different forms of birth control, like the patch, pill, IUD, and implant. Those are just the ones I can think of off the top of my head. When reading the article they talked about how there is an issue with just letting those with a uterus chose what is best for their families, bodies, and what their doctors think will be the best for them. They also mentioned that there was a point in time where they were saying that if they want the level of abortion rates to go down that they need to be safe, legal, and not to happen often. But we also saw where it was happening in homes before there were even names for birth control and abortions. They would make special drinks with herbs and what they considered potions. These were considered to be troublesome and risky. Apparently there were some that were less invasive than others. In the late 1800’s abortions were not legal in the fifty states. Margaret Sanger is the lady who came up with the term birth control and she also founded planned parenthood! Putting women’s health at risk because there are accidental pregnancies was something that she was very passionate about fighting against! There are many issues when it comes to what to consider an “unwanted pregnancy”. It was common that black women got raped which lead to unwanted and unplanned pregnancies and they could not always afford the child that they were practically forced to get pregnant with. When they realized that terminating the pregnancy would be frowned upon that lead them to carrying the baby to term. Even when doing this they still struggled so that led many women to sign up for assistance through the state, food stamps, wic, and health coverage. It did not matter what color you were, every woman that could not make it with a child applied. While this is a touchy topic for some people or an awkward one it is something that I do believe we need to start informing kids in middle and high schools about sooner and more in depth.

When it comes to the question that was being asked at the end of this essay, I thought that they were talking about how time is an important factor and is different in everyone’s lives. I also thought about how in some cultures and ethnicity’s that they value the time they have during the day. It is something that they use wisely. Black men are looked at differently by state and government staff and the judicial system. It is very unfair. Ava DuVernay talks about s Netflix series that they are trying to use when it comes to the group known as the Central Park Five, the five Black and Afro-Latinx males were in court admitting that they has sexually assaulted a woman, a White woman. When they were sentenced their perception of time had changed drastically. One of the quotes the question was wanting us to reflect on that really stood out to me was “behind the times”, when I hear this I automatically think about how when they have served their time how they will be able to possibly put it behind them and leave it behind those bars of the jail cells they were in. All the bad that they had done could have a place to stay and hopefully they would come out as new men. Even if others don’t see them that way, maybe them doing the time for the crime will change them for the good and better of the world. People most of the time say things like, “the past is in the past” or “the past is behind us now, now we need to be in the present”. I feel it is something that is going to continued to be said until humankind no longer exist or we stop using time for any and everything.

One blog post that I had read was about the Korean food starting to be located in American grocery stores. I think that there are many things that helped this happen like the post had mentioned. There were shows, movies, series, and music that has come out to make an influence on people and the things they were willing to try. I think something that they did well was that they made sure to state that it has taken not just a few years but decades for the people of the Korean culture to be able to find foods from their own culture and traditions in the store where it is accessible. Making it where they don’t have to improvise when shopping for the things that they are used to having and eating.
Crying Over Gochujang

Another post that I read was the one about juveniles being sentenced to life without parole and I think that they did a good job when it came to explaining that there was a lot of background baggage that the kid had before committing the horrible crime that he did. Being a double major in psychology and sociology it actually makes me think about how it has messed with Ian’s mental state but also how it affected his ability to be social and interact with society.That all matters when it comes to someones mental well being and how society views them as people once they know what they have been through and where they have been raised as kids.
More Verstehen: What it’s Like to be a Juvenile Offender Sentenced to LWOP

The blog about the median mother is thirty is something that caught my attention because I personally do not want children. To see that the median age for mothers has increased by five years since the last time I had heard anything about what age they considered to be appropriate they were saying twenty-five. I do agree with the blog and that the age has increased because there are more and more women that are going to college and furthering their education to have better and good steady jobs before having kids. The chart that they provided shows that they average age is now about thirty and that is something that proof that backs the statement. Something that I think that they could have maybe done a little better was to make it something that is okay and that we do not have to live up to societies standards of when we are supposed to have kids. There are adults my age that I went to high school with that now have four kids and I just recently turned twenty-three. I could not imagine having four kids, but it works for her because we took different paths in life. What will work for one person does not always work for the other.
The median mother is 30, TV interview edition

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