Have you ever asked yourself, “Should my child be doing this by now?” You are not alone! All parents wonder about that sometimes. Maybe your toddler isn’t talking as much as other kids, or your three-year-old doesn’t listen after you ask them to clean up.
That’s why it helps to understand developmental milestones.
Milestones are the small and big things children learn as they grow like smiling, waving, walking, talking, and playing with others. They aren’t a test or a list to check off. They’re simply guides that show what most children can do at certain ages. When you know about them, parenting can feel less stressful and a lot more fun.
Why milestones matter
1. They help you set fair expectations. It’s easy to expect too much from young children. Maybe you tell your two-year-old, “Put away your shoes, wash your hands, and come sit at the table,” and then get upset when they don’t do it. Most toddlers can only follow one simple direction at a time. When you know that, you can ask in a way that fits what your child can do—and that helps both of you feel more calm and successful.
2. They help you notice the little wins. When you know what is typical for your child’s age, you start to see progress everywhere. Maybe they wave goodbye for the first time or point to a picture they like in a book. Those small moments show your child is growing and learning and they deserve to be celebrated!
3. They help you get help early if needed. All children grow in their own way, but sometimes a delay can mean your child needs a little extra support. When you know what milestones to look for, it’s easier to talk with your doctor or early intervention program. Getting help early can make a big difference.
Tools that make it easier
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has free tools for families who want to learn more about milestones and child development. The Milestone Tracker App is free and helps you keep track of your child’s growth from 2 months to 5 years old. You can see short videos, mark milestones your child reaches, and find easy ideas for helping them learn. The CDC also has fun children’s books like Baby’s Busy Day, Where Is Bear?, and Amazing Me: It’s Busy Being 3! that teach about milestones while you read together.
Celebrate your child’s journey
Understanding milestones isn’t about comparing your child to others. It’s about celebrating your child’s unique path and noticing how they grow each day.
So next time you wonder, “Should my child be doing this yet?” take a deep breath. Every milestone—big or small—is part of your child’s amazing story.
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